Self-care Alphabet

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It is no secret that our everyday lives can be difficult, stressful and sometimes upsetting. With the challenge of mental health being on the rise and the effect social media has on our society, I believe it’s good to practice self-care as often as possible. Everyone takes care of themselves and their happiness differently. While some like to walk their dog or try a new recipe, others might like to take bubble baths and play in the rain and both of these rituals are valid. The following list is a list of ideas to maybe start you on this self-care path or maybe even to inspire you to add to your personal ritual of self-care.

This is something that was sent to me via email by my college two years ago and I thought it would be good to post it here and maybe encourage some people to engage in self-care and self-love. I hope these are helpful and feel free to share them with anyone who you think might need these tips.

Allow yourself to dream

Be honest about what you need

Create/craft something

Drink a mug of soothing tea

Eat foods which nourish you

Forgive yourself

Go on a walk in nature

Have a long soak in a bubbly bath

Invest in yourself

Join a support group

Kite, fly one

Learn to say no to the things you want to say ‘no’ to

Make a blanket fort

Nap

Own who you are, embrace your you’ness

Play, it’s not just for kids

Question your icky boundaries, work on them

Read books, not just self-help/improvement ones

Stop making New Year’s Resolutions, choose a feeling or a key word instead

Take time out for you

Upgrade a tatty item

Vocalise your needs

Write a journal or a letter to someone

Xenial – be as kind to yourself as you would be to others

You matter, you are important and worthy

Zzz, 7-9 hours per night

I hope this self-care alphabet has given you some inspiration to engage in loving and taking care of yourself physically and mentally. Thank you for reading and don’t forget to check out my last post all about tips for getting a good night’s rest.

With love,

Peach

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Be Present

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A lot of times we tend to live our lives in the past or the future and very rarely in the present. My question is, are we truly living if we spend our lives thinking, wondering and being anxious about the past and the future? How can one really live their life if they’re reliving memories or just simply planning ahead? That’s not living, that’s remaining stagnant. We can’t change the past and we won’t have an amazing future if we don’t get our shit together in the present.

I think that it is human nature to focus more on the past and the future. We try to relive the past because we miss it, because it is easier to lose ourselves in fond memories when something is difficult to deal with in our present lives or simply because we are wondering ‘what if’? What if I chose to take a gap year? What if I would have said yes to that opportunity? What if, what if, what if. As for obsessing about the future… I think that is normal too! We live in an age when everything is fast paced and our productivity levels are constantly through the roof – simply put, we never pause to think. Be it because we are working hard to create future for ourselves or because of social media which not only it can be addictive but it can also be a damaging safe-habit.

What is a safe-habit? A safe-habit is a habit we cling on to make ourselves feel safe and comfortable. Such as over-eating, sleeping in and staying in toxic relationships/friendships. Just like over-eating and sleeping in, obsessing over the past and the future can be a safe-habit. It is easier to live in the past because it has already happened and we know we got through whatever we went through and it is easier to obsess and plan for the future because at least we know that we have a plan and that we are prepared for it.

The truth is, we are never prepared for the future and we can never relive the past. The past is gone and the future is not here yet so we are left with the present. This is something I am working on in my personal life, thinking (more like over-thinking) about the past is something I am guilty of and worrying about the future is like a second nature to me but as I was trying to improve myself and to become a better, happier person I came up with a few things to make sure I actively live my future. Some of them are:

Switch up your routines

We are so stuck in our routines that everything we do becomes automated – making coffee in the morning is like a well rehearsed dance and scrolling through our social media is like watching a movie without engaging with it. Things like your morning routine, your study routine or even little stuff like where you get your groceries from can become an easy habit – a dance that we don’t have to think about, we just do it. Because we don’t have to think about the sequence of how we do things in the morning or the food we eat on a daily basis, that leaves a lot of room to think about the past/future and in turn it does not allow us to live in the present. By switching up your routines you keep things fresh, you keep yourself on your toes and through that excitement you begin to enjoy your present. So maybe instead of making the same five dishes all the time you could learn to make something else, something more challenging or even something completely out of your comfort zone. If we start to enjoy the present then it is easier to let go of the past and stop worrying about the future.

Active reminders

It is easy to slip back into old mindsets and habits if we don’t actively remind ourselves of our goals or the reason why we want to start living in the present. A few ways in which I actively remind myself to be present are post it notes, phone wallpapers or simply putting a stop to my thoughts when my mind wanders in that direction. By actively thinking and reminding ourselves that we must live in the present, not only do we find it easier to achieve that goal but it also spares us the disappointment when we realize that we haven’t been working hard to achieve a better state of mind.

Spend time doing something you love

Initially, this point was going to be called ‘spend time with family and friends’ but I thought, why not spend time doing something you love? It doesn’t have to be spending time with family and we all know that getting a group of friends together is harder now that we are getting older. Anything that keeps you grounded and focused should work and that includes friends, family, pets, hobbies such as writing, painting or a sport. By doing something you love you get into the habit of living in the present and enjoying every happy moment.

So here is the product of my highly caffeinated mind. I hope you enjoyed this blog post and that it might have helped you in one way or another. While you’re at it, check my last post which is a Get to Know Me Tag. Thank you for reading!

With love,

Peach

Preconceived Notions: University Edition

Introductions always seem to be easy for most people but as I am sitting in front of my laptop with my hands hovering over the keyboard – well, it’s kind of difficult. Trying to find similar interests to people in order to spark a conversation and fit into such a large community has been a daunting yet exciting dream of mine for the past couple of years and now that I am finally here all I can do is ask myself: “What am I even supposed to say?” I guess the answer is to talk about myself and well, introduce myself.

My name is Sonny, I am nineteen years old and I am an English Literature undergraduate. My passions include reading (of course), writing – I write fiction, non-fiction, poetry and a whole lot of fanfiction – which I have been doing for the past 9 years or so and photography which I am new to. I have two furry babies, a tabby cat named Sherlock and a small Yorkie called Tommy and I live in the United Kingdom.

I am your typical introvert and most often you will find me tucked away in a corner somewhere reading the day away or binge-watching TV shows such as Grey’s Anatomy or Dexter and if I am completely honest, it’s usually the latter. Hm… I could probably drink my body weight in coffee, I own over 170 books and my manga collection is steadily growing as we speak – or type.

Now onto the main topic of this blog post:

Given that I am very new at this blogging situation, I wanted to start a conversation about something that I think a lot of people, young adults, in particular, can relate to which is the topic of the first year of university (or college for all my American pals). I think we can all agree that we step into this new chapter of our lives with a lot of anxiety, excitement, (debt) and preconceived notions of what being a university student is going to be like. I had the whole year planned out in my head – I would step out of my comfort zone by going out to parties, get drunk and turn up to lectures with a throbbing headache and I would join three afterschool clubs, probably all related to anime and kpop. Of course, that was not the case. Instead, I found out that the nightlife at my university is pretty nonexistent, that I can hold my liquor pretty well and that none of the clubs at my university interested me.

My first day during Freshers’ Week was weird, as it should be. My newfound friends and I got lost a couple of times, we were paired up with a way-too-happy second year and we had to take horrible ID photos which will last us for the next three years of our lives. It wasn’t all weird, though. On the first day, I made three really good friends, we established a tradition of getting fast food every Monday after our Literature lecture and I got to browse through one of the massive libraries at my university (I am talking three floors full of books and research papers!)

The point of this blog post is not to complain about university, which I do a lot by the way, but to talk about how as humans we tend to go into things with a lot or preconceived notions and prejudice and how that has the potential to be detrimental to the way we experience life. Before starting my first year of university I was dreading the nightlife aspect because I am such an introvert which in turn put a damper on how I felt and behaved during Freshers’ Week. Because of my preconceived notions I did not allow myself to, well, be myself around my new friends and to fully enjoy the experience of being in a completely new environment doing new and exciting things.

Preconceived notions tend to set us on the path we take in life as we are not guided by personal experience or research, but by ideas and beliefs we might not be knowledgeable of. Therefore it is easy to live a rigid, close minded life that lacks enjoyment and adventure. Even so, having preconceived notions and going into situations with our minds already filled with stereotypes is only human – we all do it despite how much we wished we wouldn’t. I think my first year of university would have been different if I was more open minded and reminded myself that not everything is as it seems.

As for the future, I think we’ll always make assumptions based on other people’s opinions, the media and stereotypes but personally I would like to be more flexible in my beliefs and hopefully that will allow me to enjoy life a little more. So, I think the moral of my first ever blog post is to be open minded and always be yourself, no matter what you think a situation is going to be like.

With love,

Peach

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